One of my favourite quotes of all the time is from the beginning of Charles Dickins’ novel “A tale of two cities” , and it goes like this :
“”It was the best of times, it was the worst of times, it was the age of wisdom, it was the age of foolishness, it was the epoch of belief, it was the epoch of incredulity, it was the season of Light, it was the season of Darkness, it was the spring of hope, it was the winter of despair, we had everything before us…”.
Every time I read it I feel myself filled with hope for what the future have in store for all of us. It sounds pretty idealistic, isn’t it? And even though it had been written so long time ago, it might have an impact today as well, don’t we live in the age of “foolishness” and “wisdom “ at the same time?!? But the real question to ask is are we appreciating what we have or we are just prisoners of some trends, trying to imitate something, adhering to certain norms and expectations.
I am not going to lie to you, no, no,no. I will be straight forward as I can because sometimes things need to be said as they are. Sometimes I spend too much time on the Internet, on various social medias like Twitter, Facebook and Instagram and even though most of the time I do that for fun and for the feeling “So what?” I am going to spend three hours of my life endlessly scrolling down the pictures of people I don’t know just because I like their hairstyle or dress style or music preferences, it gets daunting and exhausting to do it. In one minute you look at some pictures or read some status update and put your like as an approval of it as if you can raise your voice and give a say and support or whatever makes you feel good, because your whole day or week even have been crappy and you need to spend it better way and most of all you need APPRECIATION and ATTENTION. (Don’t dare to roll your eyes at me as you are reading this, we both know it’s true and we all have been there.)
But things get hard when you can’t get as much like as this girl here, how she managed to get so famous on Instagram, what is her secret? And then you become addicted to it and you start watching tutorial and searching for tips how to attract many followers, and in the end you know how to post things on the right time, how many posts to have and you are there Finally! But the void is not gone! Maybe after a few more pictures and likes and comments and it’s that vicious cycle in which you can’t get out because the white rabbit is gone and you are no longer little girl reading Alice in wonderland.
This major hype around it is everywhere, we live under the motto “if it is not posted, it didn’t happen,duh!”. After all, for whom are these posts after all, for you or for someone else. I am sure that there are still people who make their post only for them not to justify something to someone (presumable to strangers out there), not for craving attention or appreciation , but just to make a memory of it. If you are one of them, you are not alone, but you might be outnumbered by the other ones who do it for the opposite reasons.
In the end, I want to ask, what is more important to you, an honest and humble conversation with someone or the number of likes and comments on your status? It’s your choice to decide what you value more worthy because we all live in “winter of despair” and the “spring of hope”.